How To Lose A Man As Fast As You Got Him

He's such a jerk.. He played me.. I didn't deserve this.. I'm not that bad of a girlfriend.... WHY?? This is something I hear so too often from women who have a bad break up... BUT GIRLS lets just keep it real for a second.. Sit down self examine. What is it that you were doing. Evaluate your fights.. what were they about?

Let me school you on a few things that really bother guys... even if you dont think it does..

Clinginess... a guy wants to feel needed but he doesn't want to feel like if he goes out with his boys you will lose your mind....

Insecurity... Now chances are you put up a front to get this guy interested if you're insecure.. because most guys wont even go towards an insecure woman she has a huge red flag waving above her head.. so since you put up a front to get him someday the true you will come out you cant hide insecurities forever...
going thru his phone his email his facebook... INSECURE
having something to say about every female he is associated with INSECURE
calling 27 times and texting 53 while he's out with his boys for 4 hours INSECURE

Inability to communicate.. Now ladies you might think men are brainless and only care about football and sex.. BUT THAT IS SO WRONG... men desire a woman that can come to him and express how shes feeling about certain things. Men do desire to fix the issues.. so communication is so necessary. Men are not mind readers if you dont tell them they wont know. So getting mad and screaming and yelling at him is just going to confuse him more and turn him completely off from being in a relationship.

NAGGING him to death... look ladies... nagging a man is one of the worst things you can do.. it's a sure bet he will leave you. Lets just keep it real you dont want to be nagged all day do you? You dont want someone complaining about how you live your life everytime you turn around. Everytime you guys get together your man is complaining.. NOPE so why do it? Even the bible tells us a few things about nagging
Proverbs 21:9 It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife(even tho your not his wife you get the idea)
Proverbs 27:15 A continual dripping on a rainy day and a quarrelsome wife are alike
Proverbs 21:19 It is better to live in a desert land than with a quarrelsome and fretful woman
I think you get the point.. STOP NAGGING THAT MAN... or he's gonna leave it's just a matter of time.

TRUST IS A MUST... look if you cant trust a man because of what men have done to you in the past you need to STOP... and save this man from the drama you are about to bring into his life. Its up to you to heal from your past before you can enter into something else. Trust also goes along with insecurity... checking his phone emails fb all of it stems from a lack of trust and insecurities. Honestly sis you have no right to be in a relationship right now. That may sting but you need to let God do some work in you and if this man you're dating is the one then he will wait for you TRUST GOD!!

Negative Attitudes...YES even this wears on a mans nerves. He doesn't want to hear your negativity all the time. If your life is so horrible why dont you stop what you're doing and CHANGE... This also includes a lack of desire to become a better person.. none of us can ever stop growing we can always become better and once you get the attitude that you're where you want to be you have lost. No man wants to hear you talk bad about everything in your life.

If the stress out weighs the rewards of the relationship chances are a REAL MAN is not going to stay. He knows his worth he knows that God will reward him for his obedience and a nagging negative insecure non trusting wife is not what God is going to give him. You may be able to throw your money at him or your body, BUT this will not keep him. TRUST ME if you have the mentality that your sex game is gonna keep a man happy you are SO wrong. It may keep him interested in a booty call but as soon as something better looking comes along he will leave you for her. He may call some night that he cant get ahold of his other chic. LADIES know your worth.. Dont be this bitter broken woman that continuously loses every man she dates and sends a piece of herself with him. What I have learned is this.. if you keep it pure and you keep it how God intended you wont lose a piece of you if it comes about that GOD says this isn't what I had for you. IF you haven't given a piece of your soul you have kept it real.. you wont send a piece of yourself. You know a man and a woman who have dated can come to a mutual decision that this isn't what the Lord has for either of us and we cant pursue a romantic relationship but hey since we haven't slept together we dont have a soul tie we can be friends and maybe God intended for something else to come out of our coming together!!! Anyone who says you cant be friends is a liar. God didn't intend for us to go around sleeping with everyone and giving a piece away so that at the end of the day we're mad. NO he intended for us to bring glory to his kingdom... Ladies stop letting your emotions run you and if you're in a place where you cant get control of these things you have no business dating.. slow down let God do his work in you so you're better prepared!!!

Breaking up doesn't have to be a bad thing. It can be a growth thing. A learning experience but as long as you remain bitter and broken you will never learn and if you cant learn you cant grow... I love you all!!!


T.I.A.
TRUTH.IN.ACTION

Big shoutout to the guys who gave me their opinions... Michael Pittman, Qasim Mitchell, Pastor Stephen Thompson, Dwight Nash, Bangloose, Mark Laturtue, and Steve Johnson!!! You guys rock thanks for keeping it REAL!!!

Why I Have Chosen Celibacy

The best sex is blessed sex WAIT FOR MARRIAGE!! #TeamCelibate.. a lot of you see me say this a lot!! Now the reasons I have chosen to be celibate!!!

I have been having sex since I was 15. There isn't much I haven't done in the realm of sex.. EXCEPT wait!! See I cant get my virginity.. my purity and neither can you, but what you can do is choose from this day forward to be CELIBATE to refrain from sexual activity until your wedding day! Now although you're not a virgin (assuming you're not) God can still bless your sex! Repent for the sex you have had now and pray to him to break the soul ties you have acquired along the way.

Celibacy is hard.. you have to get to a place that God is fullfilling enough for you to fight the urges. You have to keep yourself from situations that you would normally fall victim to those sexual encounters. Personally I dont find myself alone with a man for long periods of time and after a certain time of the day. Although sex can happen during the day you're more likely to engage in it at night when the mood is right LOL.. how corny but really... I know a lot of believers who safe guard themselves by not being with their boyfriend or girlfriend past a certain time of day.

Now personally I have chosen celibacy because of my own convictions. God has delivered from the pits of hell literally satan and I were on first name basis. I was having men lust after me in strip clubs engaging in sex in the "vip" room.. oh yeah by the way.. sex really does happen in the champagne room... for the right amount of money any girl in that club would have sex.. and since it was the most upscale club in houston... sheeks, princes, CEO's, Politicians, Rappers, Athletes, anyone who could actually afford it could have sex... now fast forward... God convicted me and showed me that this is where I would minister to people.. but how could I be having sex and minister to girls and tell them what it would do to them.. isn't that hypocritical???????? Duh Tia thats the point you cant witness to anyone while you're engaging in sexual activities.. that's when I had to make a choice what was more important my salvation or sex? I chose to follow God and the convictions of my heart.

So here I am celibate and the longer and longer I go I get more excited.. I no longer have the urge to masturbate or watch porn.. Sex isn't even on my mind and if I do think about it I think about how exciting my wedding night is going to be becaues it's going to be blessed...by the creator of it My God!!!!

Celibacy was a hard choice because I was so sexually active and actually I craved it.. but not only did God deliver me from it he took away the urges!! I know that if he can do it for me he can do it for anyone!! People ask me all the time aren't you afraid of losing a man cause you wont have sex with him.. UM NO... I'm afraid of losing my salvation if I do have sex with a man. IF a man cant wait and wont wait until marriage then he is not the man for me. No man is worth my salvation.. and no woman should worth you "guys" that are out there having sex. It's not just your salvation it's your heart, your soul, your health (mental and physical). If you think that having sex doesn't affect any of those areas you are being deceived and fooled. I urge you to at least consider the benefits of celibacy.

Here are a few
You can pray for your soul ties to be broken
You will get closer to God
You wont feel the pressures to "perform"

that's just 3 but personally I have clarity I dont have a lot of opposite sex stress I find my comfort in God instead the arms of a man that eventually leave. Celibacy has so many rewards!! And think about it!! Your wedding night sex will be AMAZING.. blessed by the creator of it.. YEAH HOW CAN YOU GO WRONG??

Just my 3 cents lol... God Bless

LADIES LADIES LADIES... let him go

LADIES... I've finally realized a lot thru my 28 years and many relationships that just haven't worked... some not my fault.. some were.. but what I've realized is this..

You cant make a man stay.. worldly or Godly men are men and once their mind is made up.. they are leaving it's just a matter of time. You cant change a mans mind. If he wants to go LET HIM. Holding onto him is just causing yourself more pain. TRUST ME..

Begging a man to stay is showing him that you can be an option if what he's leaving you for doesn't work out. That you will be there if what he's chasing fails. It leaves you hurting and vulnerable and if you do take him back he will just leave you again for another option. It's not fair dont do it. Dont beg a man to stay. If he wants to go let him go.

I know they say fight for what you want, BUT if what you want doesn't want to be fought for.. DONT FIGHT .. why fight a battle that you cant win. LOOK I know it sounds all romantic and right to say I fought for this with everything I have but he isn't gonna respect that. LET HIM GO...

Relationships are hard and if both parties aren't willing to fight for what God has brought together then LET IT GO.. it is true that any door God has opened man cant shut BUT God doesn't force us to be in relationships actually he doesn't force us to do anything... what he does is give up the chance... if a man doesn't want to make it work.. sorry sis.. GOD ISN'T GONNA FORCE HIM you have to just LET HIM GO...

No woman wants to hear this.. she wants to hear it's gonna be okay.. it's gonna work out just keep fighting... WHY? WHY fight for something that is not in your hands?? If he wants to go just let him go. SIS it will save you heartache in the long run. The momentary heartache it hurts it really does because you gave so much of yourself and you feel like how could he walk away if he loves me. Doesn't he understand how bad it hurts. MOST LIKELY no he doesn't.. that's why it's so easy for him to turn around and walk away...

If a man wants to go let him and dont sit around waiting for him to come back. He's not sitting around waiting on you. NO he's out living and loving.. so it's your turn go live and love.. dont lose yourself in a man. Men are temporary God is forever... God will fix your broken heart and eventually it wont hurt anymore and you will move on...

JUST WORDS OF ADVICE FROM MEEEE