You don’t need anyone’s help to be
a failure in life. You can do that all
by yourself. But you cannot be a success
in life without the help of others.
One of the greatest lessons I’ve
learned about success is to remain teachable.
Ego, pride, resistance, procrastination and
fear are destroyers of success. If I seek
praise more than I seek growth, than I’m
out of balance. I’ve learned from the input
and insights of others. I’ve learned that
a diamond is dull without some polishing.
I’ve learned that the rose bush has
to be pruned in order to grow more beautiful
roses. The pruning may not feel good but the
gardener knows it must be done or the rose
bush never realizes its potential.
Insecurity, ego, pride and a closed mind
are weeds in your garden of success. You will
grow as you welcome the strengths, wisdom,
support, mentoring, feedback, pruning and
polishing from others.... Jewel Diamond Taylor
Tuesday, March 30, 2010
Wednesday, March 24, 2010
THE SANCTITY OF MARRIAGE
So this blog started because one of my homeboys asked me... "If your future husband bought u a Kmart ring and told you he would upgrade it in a year, would you still say yes" I answered honestly but what bothered me was the answers he had gotten from many other women.
1. NO
2. If he put it in writing he'd upgrade it
But I'm the only one that said yes. See our society is so stuck on material things. It saddens my heart that it's not about marriage anymore it's about the ring.. the wedding.. the dress.. Its not a marriage. This is why so many marriages fail. Why so many kids are raised in broken homes. My moms diamond is so simple and only a Karat which my father didn't get her until about 15 years ago.. they've been married for 30... Before that it was a simple band with gold nuggets in it from his first gold mine.
So why have you spiraled out of control. Why is our generation so lost. I believe with all my heart it's a lack of knowledge and a desire to BLING. Lack of knowledge of God and the sanctity he puts on marriage. When you get married you become one. One person. Its not about just you anymore it's about "we" "us" When you have problems it's not suppose to be a problem u bring to ur mom and ur dad and ur grandma and ur sister and so on and so on it's about bringing ur marital problems to the Lord laying them at his feet and trusting that he will deal with it. Another problem is so many women are so quick to cut their man off from sex... The bible states.
"The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. 5 Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control." 1 Corinthians 7:1-5
Now lemme explain this a little bit...when you deprive your husband of sex he is now open to temptation to the devil. Even more then he already is. As a human being it is a need for most. To have sex and if your not giving it to your man then what do you expect. I'm not saying it's ok for him to go cheat... but if you cut him off you did open the door for the devil to creep his way in. Its not holds bar when it comes to a man and wife behind closed doors...
When you dont have the Lord in your relationship it's 2 people struggling even harder. Yes every girl grows up wanting a dream wedding with 10 flower girls and a million bridesmaids with a big diamond ring.. bur realistically... if your man gives you a ring and you turn it down because of where it's from.. then you really shouldn't be marrying that man... it's not about the ring.. its about the love and unity that you two share...
Get it together ladies... you all wanna complain about there being no good men... well maybe you're just not a good woman...
Again I dont care who I make mad with this blog... if you're mad... TRUTH HURTS DONT IT...
1. NO
2. If he put it in writing he'd upgrade it
But I'm the only one that said yes. See our society is so stuck on material things. It saddens my heart that it's not about marriage anymore it's about the ring.. the wedding.. the dress.. Its not a marriage. This is why so many marriages fail. Why so many kids are raised in broken homes. My moms diamond is so simple and only a Karat which my father didn't get her until about 15 years ago.. they've been married for 30... Before that it was a simple band with gold nuggets in it from his first gold mine.
So why have you spiraled out of control. Why is our generation so lost. I believe with all my heart it's a lack of knowledge and a desire to BLING. Lack of knowledge of God and the sanctity he puts on marriage. When you get married you become one. One person. Its not about just you anymore it's about "we" "us" When you have problems it's not suppose to be a problem u bring to ur mom and ur dad and ur grandma and ur sister and so on and so on it's about bringing ur marital problems to the Lord laying them at his feet and trusting that he will deal with it. Another problem is so many women are so quick to cut their man off from sex... The bible states.
"The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. 5 Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control." 1 Corinthians 7:1-5
Now lemme explain this a little bit...when you deprive your husband of sex he is now open to temptation to the devil. Even more then he already is. As a human being it is a need for most. To have sex and if your not giving it to your man then what do you expect. I'm not saying it's ok for him to go cheat... but if you cut him off you did open the door for the devil to creep his way in. Its not holds bar when it comes to a man and wife behind closed doors...
When you dont have the Lord in your relationship it's 2 people struggling even harder. Yes every girl grows up wanting a dream wedding with 10 flower girls and a million bridesmaids with a big diamond ring.. bur realistically... if your man gives you a ring and you turn it down because of where it's from.. then you really shouldn't be marrying that man... it's not about the ring.. its about the love and unity that you two share...
Get it together ladies... you all wanna complain about there being no good men... well maybe you're just not a good woman...
Again I dont care who I make mad with this blog... if you're mad... TRUTH HURTS DONT IT...
Friday, March 19, 2010
REMEMBERING YOU
Its been a year now.. I cant believe yesterday was a year since you left this world... Sweet little baby of mine... I didn't want to lose you... Poor choices.. mistakes... listening to the world instead of my savior.. Why do we make the choices that we make.. when we walk away from the Lord and ignore what he is saying to our heart..
You became my testimony of celibasy.. of purity... of living a life without experiencing this kind of pain. Your life symbolizes so many things to be taught everyday I think about you dont think I didn't love you... I'll see you in heaven someday I know I will... but for now.. I let you rest.. back with the Lord you went.. I guess he needed you more then I did.. I love you sweet baby of mine...
I'm sitting here crying... you didn't get to experience this life.. yours was cut so short.. But I know your in his arms for now I'm going to go... ur life was not in vain.. sweet baby ...
love mommy
You became my testimony of celibasy.. of purity... of living a life without experiencing this kind of pain. Your life symbolizes so many things to be taught everyday I think about you dont think I didn't love you... I'll see you in heaven someday I know I will... but for now.. I let you rest.. back with the Lord you went.. I guess he needed you more then I did.. I love you sweet baby of mine...
I'm sitting here crying... you didn't get to experience this life.. yours was cut so short.. But I know your in his arms for now I'm going to go... ur life was not in vain.. sweet baby ...
love mommy
Wednesday, March 17, 2010
Affirmation for a Single Woman
I'm learning to enjoy and accept being single. Yes, I am an attractive woman of intelligence and experience. I am complete whether I am married or single. I love myself and more importantly, I love the Lord.
He told me that when I delight in Him, He will give me the desires of my heart. Just because you don't see me with a mate or a date, doesn't mean that I must be attracted to my same gender. I'm learning to love, appreciate and understand myself before I allow someone else in my life to appreciate the sugar I'm storing on the top shelf. I'm complete, whole and enough whether in a relationship or not. My worth is not determined by whether I am married, divorced, single or engaged. My heavenly Father told me I'm above a diamond's worth and a gem doesn't seek … a gem is sought and cherished.
As a woman, I know it's not my role to chase after or change a man. Esther 2:1-4 states that I am to wait on my King. Since I'm learning how to cherish, value, love and honor myself, I am enjoying my life and thankful that in God's timing I will attract my divine right mate.
I am willing to heal, grow and let go of any fear or low self-esteem. I thank God for giving me the patience, discipline, and self-worth to discern what and who is best suited for my time, lifestyle, standards, heart, body and soul. He will know that making love to me requires caressing my mind before caressing my body. I'm thankful for the mind and daily activities that keep me strong, active and centered in peace and satisfaction vs. restlessness. I have spiritual gifts and goals to pursue. I am learning self-control to avoid the weakness of the flesh or the pressures of others and not lower my worth or values.
My divine right mate could show up in the most unexpected place or time. I will stop missing events, activities and experiences in my life just because I am single. I am taking my life's happiness out of layaway. What I am seeking, is also seeking me. So I keep myself healthy, loving, active, spiritually strong and wise to become an irresistible magnet for all the good that God has in store for my life. My inner wisdom teaches me to focus on the internal vs. the external, the truth vs. denial, my heart and just not just my hormones. As I read this affirmation daily, I am encouraged, strengthened and empowered to radiate with wholeness, love and self-esteem. I am free of any shame, guilt, anger, grief, depression or neediness. I am loved and I am loving person.
I realize that a great boyfriend is not necessarily the best candidate for a husband. I will give myself permission to enjoy companionship without disrespecting or neglecting my children, my health or my personal goals. My happiness is not dependent on whether I have a mate or not. My attitude of joy and completeness begins with me and my relationship with the Lord
He told me that when I delight in Him, He will give me the desires of my heart. Just because you don't see me with a mate or a date, doesn't mean that I must be attracted to my same gender. I'm learning to love, appreciate and understand myself before I allow someone else in my life to appreciate the sugar I'm storing on the top shelf. I'm complete, whole and enough whether in a relationship or not. My worth is not determined by whether I am married, divorced, single or engaged. My heavenly Father told me I'm above a diamond's worth and a gem doesn't seek … a gem is sought and cherished.
As a woman, I know it's not my role to chase after or change a man. Esther 2:1-4 states that I am to wait on my King. Since I'm learning how to cherish, value, love and honor myself, I am enjoying my life and thankful that in God's timing I will attract my divine right mate.
I am willing to heal, grow and let go of any fear or low self-esteem. I thank God for giving me the patience, discipline, and self-worth to discern what and who is best suited for my time, lifestyle, standards, heart, body and soul. He will know that making love to me requires caressing my mind before caressing my body. I'm thankful for the mind and daily activities that keep me strong, active and centered in peace and satisfaction vs. restlessness. I have spiritual gifts and goals to pursue. I am learning self-control to avoid the weakness of the flesh or the pressures of others and not lower my worth or values.
My divine right mate could show up in the most unexpected place or time. I will stop missing events, activities and experiences in my life just because I am single. I am taking my life's happiness out of layaway. What I am seeking, is also seeking me. So I keep myself healthy, loving, active, spiritually strong and wise to become an irresistible magnet for all the good that God has in store for my life. My inner wisdom teaches me to focus on the internal vs. the external, the truth vs. denial, my heart and just not just my hormones. As I read this affirmation daily, I am encouraged, strengthened and empowered to radiate with wholeness, love and self-esteem. I am free of any shame, guilt, anger, grief, depression or neediness. I am loved and I am loving person.
I realize that a great boyfriend is not necessarily the best candidate for a husband. I will give myself permission to enjoy companionship without disrespecting or neglecting my children, my health or my personal goals. My happiness is not dependent on whether I have a mate or not. My attitude of joy and completeness begins with me and my relationship with the Lord
Strong Woman vs Woman of Strength
A strong woman works out every day,
Pride in her appearance she portrays,
But a woman of strength kneels to pray,
Keeping her soul in shape, God leading the way.
A strong woman isn't afraid of anything,
Looking forward to challenges each day will bring,
Women of strength show courage in the midst of fear,
Knowing triumph through faith because the Lord is near.
Strong women won't let anyone get the best of them,
So skilled in defense even if they have to pretend,
Yet a woman of strength gives her best to everyone,
Knowing she’s anointed with blood from the begotten One.
A strong woman makes mistakes and avoids the same for tomorrow,
Refusing to take time looking back with reverence and Godly sorrow,
The woman of strength realizes life's mistakes no matter how slim,
While thanking God for the blessings as she capitalizes on them.
A strong woman walks sure footedly with no doubt in her mind,
Again, no matter what, she’ll not make this mistake a second time,
But a woman of strength knows God will catch her when she falls,
So when a situation arises again, she’s not afraid to answer the call.
A strong woman wears the look of confidence on her face,
Always doing whatever it takes to finish, seeking only first place,
The woman of strength competes with an emotional sense of grace,
Understanding it’s more important to run a Holy Spirit filled race.
A strong woman has faith that for the journey she’ll have enough,
No matter how uneven the terrain or roads being rocky and rough,
A woman of strength knows it’s in the journey she will become strong,
And the love of God is forever with her, no matter how difficult or long.
Pride in her appearance she portrays,
But a woman of strength kneels to pray,
Keeping her soul in shape, God leading the way.
A strong woman isn't afraid of anything,
Looking forward to challenges each day will bring,
Women of strength show courage in the midst of fear,
Knowing triumph through faith because the Lord is near.
Strong women won't let anyone get the best of them,
So skilled in defense even if they have to pretend,
Yet a woman of strength gives her best to everyone,
Knowing she’s anointed with blood from the begotten One.
A strong woman makes mistakes and avoids the same for tomorrow,
Refusing to take time looking back with reverence and Godly sorrow,
The woman of strength realizes life's mistakes no matter how slim,
While thanking God for the blessings as she capitalizes on them.
A strong woman walks sure footedly with no doubt in her mind,
Again, no matter what, she’ll not make this mistake a second time,
But a woman of strength knows God will catch her when she falls,
So when a situation arises again, she’s not afraid to answer the call.
A strong woman wears the look of confidence on her face,
Always doing whatever it takes to finish, seeking only first place,
The woman of strength competes with an emotional sense of grace,
Understanding it’s more important to run a Holy Spirit filled race.
A strong woman has faith that for the journey she’ll have enough,
No matter how uneven the terrain or roads being rocky and rough,
A woman of strength knows it’s in the journey she will become strong,
And the love of God is forever with her, no matter how difficult or long.
Monday, March 15, 2010
Jesus.. my best friend
Jesus lover of my soul..
Jesus I will never let you go!!!
Wow how powerful is Jesus... his love for me shines so bright I'm incredibly blessed to know this Jesus of mine... What brought me to this place what made me want Jesus and him only..
I grew up going to church I received Jesus as my Lord and Saviour a few times.. lol it was a constant battle trying to be this girl that loved Jesus but still try and fit in. I was an athlete I wasn't ugly and SEX was always on my mind. I was excited and in a hurry to lose my virginity... and then I did... and never looked back.. Sex had such a strong hold on my life I wanted sex. God tells us the importance of saving ourselves for a reason.. You become one with the person you sleep with.. and then you become one with the next and the next and so on and so on... how many times can u actually give urself until there's no more to give... That was me I was a mess... I wanted so bad to be accepted by my father and he just didn't care... But the real FATHER I needed to be accepted by already accepted me He already LOVED me he CREATED me... But it took me falling all the way to the bottom to realize that his love is all that matters... I started doing drugs... drinking all the time I was stripping.. in a club I never ever thought I'd do that with my life... I stripper never.. but there I was seeing married men whos wives would never even guess they were in the strip club. Government officials, law enforcement officers, Rappers, Ball Players, all around watching me take my clothes off... All driven by a decision I made when I was 16... a decision that took my innocence away... Its not easy to think about all this.. Its not easy at all BUT God has given me this testimony to use to help other young innocent LOST girls... I am very fortunate to have made it out of wordly ways alive.. and even more fortunate that God is using me to tell of his love.. to bring GLORY to him thru pains that I endured... Ive overcome so many things.. self hate... was the biggest... When I look back and reflect on where I've been... I truly smile.. because I am given life thru Jesus and I know where I'm going!!!!
Jesus I will never let you go!!!
Wow how powerful is Jesus... his love for me shines so bright I'm incredibly blessed to know this Jesus of mine... What brought me to this place what made me want Jesus and him only..
I grew up going to church I received Jesus as my Lord and Saviour a few times.. lol it was a constant battle trying to be this girl that loved Jesus but still try and fit in. I was an athlete I wasn't ugly and SEX was always on my mind. I was excited and in a hurry to lose my virginity... and then I did... and never looked back.. Sex had such a strong hold on my life I wanted sex. God tells us the importance of saving ourselves for a reason.. You become one with the person you sleep with.. and then you become one with the next and the next and so on and so on... how many times can u actually give urself until there's no more to give... That was me I was a mess... I wanted so bad to be accepted by my father and he just didn't care... But the real FATHER I needed to be accepted by already accepted me He already LOVED me he CREATED me... But it took me falling all the way to the bottom to realize that his love is all that matters... I started doing drugs... drinking all the time I was stripping.. in a club I never ever thought I'd do that with my life... I stripper never.. but there I was seeing married men whos wives would never even guess they were in the strip club. Government officials, law enforcement officers, Rappers, Ball Players, all around watching me take my clothes off... All driven by a decision I made when I was 16... a decision that took my innocence away... Its not easy to think about all this.. Its not easy at all BUT God has given me this testimony to use to help other young innocent LOST girls... I am very fortunate to have made it out of wordly ways alive.. and even more fortunate that God is using me to tell of his love.. to bring GLORY to him thru pains that I endured... Ive overcome so many things.. self hate... was the biggest... When I look back and reflect on where I've been... I truly smile.. because I am given life thru Jesus and I know where I'm going!!!!
Saturday, March 13, 2010
Hoodiesnheels
Everyone keeps asking me what "hoodiesnheels" means... I've heard some CRAAAZY assumptions... but the hoodiesnheels is ME
I have 4 brothers and all boy cousins... it was literally My Grandmas, Aunties, Mom, and me... literally the only girl lol... so naturally I always played with the boys. The cousins and brothers and all their guy friends... so I'm a HUGE tomboy.. I know how to hunt out fish most of the boys I love to go play on quads in the mud... I have been beat up by the boys.. one time they took a cow hot shot to my stomach I had like 12 red spots all over LOL... so needless to say I'm tough and boyish... I love sports video games I can work on a car... BUT then comes the heels... I'm soooo super girly it's rediculous LOL I love pink... so I have pink camo LOL.... yeah yeah I know pink camo doesn't hide u too well in the woods when your trynna be silent and not seen by a deer LOL.. ne way... Hoodiesnheels is ME the tomboy and the girly woman that I am... :)
I have 4 brothers and all boy cousins... it was literally My Grandmas, Aunties, Mom, and me... literally the only girl lol... so naturally I always played with the boys. The cousins and brothers and all their guy friends... so I'm a HUGE tomboy.. I know how to hunt out fish most of the boys I love to go play on quads in the mud... I have been beat up by the boys.. one time they took a cow hot shot to my stomach I had like 12 red spots all over LOL... so needless to say I'm tough and boyish... I love sports video games I can work on a car... BUT then comes the heels... I'm soooo super girly it's rediculous LOL I love pink... so I have pink camo LOL.... yeah yeah I know pink camo doesn't hide u too well in the woods when your trynna be silent and not seen by a deer LOL.. ne way... Hoodiesnheels is ME the tomboy and the girly woman that I am... :)
10 Reasons not to have sex before Marriage.. PUT A RING ON IT
10 Reasons Not to Have Sex Outside of Marriage
Reason #1 - God Tells Us Not to Have Sex Outside of MarriageIn the seventh of God's Ten Commandments, he instructs us not to have sex with anyone other than our spouse. It is clear that God forbids sex outside of marriage. When we obey God, he is pleased. He honors our obedience by blessing us.
Deuteronomy 28:1-3
If you fully obey the LORD your God ... [he] will set you high above all the nations on earth. All these blessings will come upon you and accompany you if you obey the LORD your God ... (NIV)
God has a reason for giving us this command. First and foremost, he knows what's best for us. By obeying him, we trust God to look out for our best interests.
Reason #2 - We Won't Miss Out on the Blessing of the Wedding Night
There's something very special about a couple's first time. In this physical act the two become one flesh. Yet it is more than just physical oneness — a spiritual union takes place. God planned for this exclusive experience of discovery and pleasure to happen only within the intimacy of marriage. If we don't wait, we miss out on a very special blessing from God.
1 Corinthians 6:16
Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, "The two become one." Since we want to become spiritually one with the Master, we must not pursue the kind of sex that avoids commitment and intimacy, leaving us more lonely than ever—the kind of sex that can never "become one." (The Message)
Reason #3 - We Will Be Spiritually Healthier
If we live as carnal or fleshly Christians, we will seek to gratify the desires of the flesh and live only to please ourselves. If we live this way, the Bible says we cannot please God. We will be miserable under the weight of our sin. As we continue to feed our fleshly desires, our spirit will grow weak and our relationship with God will be destroyed. Complacency with sin leads to worse sin, and eventually, spiritual death.
Romans 8:8,13
Those controlled by the sinful nature cannot please God. For if you live according to the sinful nature, you will die; but if by the Spirit you put to death the misdeeds of the body, you will live ... (NIV)
Reason #4 - We Will Be Physically Healthier
This one is a no-brainer. If we refrain from sex outside of marriage, we will be protected from the risk of catching sexually transmitted diseases.
1 Corinthians 6:18
Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. (NLT)
Reason #5 - We Will Be Emotionally Healthier
One reason God tells us to honor marriage and keep the marriage bed pure has to do with baggage. We carry baggage into our sexual relationships. Memories from the past, emotional scars and unwanted mental images can defile our thoughts and make the marriage bed less than pure. Certainly God can forgive the past, but that doesn't mean we're free from the baggage that can linger in our minds.
Hebrews 13:4
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. (NIV)
Reason #6 - We Will Show Consideration for Our Partner's Well-Being
If we put our partner's needs above our own and consider their spiritual well-being, we'll be compelled to wait for sex. We, like God, will want what's best for them.
Ephesians 5:2
Live a life filled with love, following the example of Christ. He loved us and offered himself as a sacrifice for us, a pleasing aroma to God. (NLT)
Philippians 2:3
Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves; (NASB)
Reason #7 - Waiting is a Test of True Love
Love is patient. That's about as simple as it gets. We can learn the sincerity of our partner's love by their willingness, or lack thereof, to wait.
1 Corinthians 13:4-5
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking ... (NIV)
Reason #8 - We Will Have No Negative Consequences to Deal With
There are always consequences to sin. Some of those effects can be devastating. An unwanted pregnancy, a decision to have an abortion or place a child for adoption, broken relationships with family and friends — these are just a few of the possible outcomes we face when we choose to have sex outside of marriage. We should be sure to consider the snow ball effect of sin. And what if the relationship does not last? Hebrews 12:1 shows that sin hinders our lives and easily entangles us. We will be much better off if we avoid these negative consequences.
Reason #9 - We Will Keep Our Christian Testimony Intact
We don't set a very good example of godly living when we disobey God. The Bible says in 1 Timothy 4:12 to "be an example to all believers in what you say, in the way you live, in your love, your faith, and your purity." (NIV)
In Matthew 5:13 Jesus compares his followers to "salt" and "light" when we represent him in the world. When we no longer shine the light of Christ, when we lose our Christian testimony, we lose our "saltiness." In other words, we become flavorless and bland. We lose our ability to attract the world to Christ. Luke 14:34-35 puts it strongly, saying that salt without saltiness is worthless, not even fit for the manure pile.
Reason #10 - We Won't Settle For Less Than God's Perfect Will
When we choose to have sex outside of marriage, we settle for less than God's perfect will — for ourselves and for our partner. And if we do this, we don't know what we might end up with. Perhaps we'll end up in a miserable marriage.
So, here's some food for thought: If your partner wants sex before marriage, consider this as a warning sign about their spiritual condition. If you are the one who wants sex before marriage, consider this as a warning sign of your own spiritual condition.
Reason #1 - God Tells Us Not to Have Sex Outside of MarriageIn the seventh of God's Ten Commandments, he instructs us not to have sex with anyone other than our spouse. It is clear that God forbids sex outside of marriage. When we obey God, he is pleased. He honors our obedience by blessing us.
Deuteronomy 28:1-3
If you fully obey the LORD your God ... [he] will set you high above all the nations on earth. All these blessings will come upon you and accompany you if you obey the LORD your God ... (NIV)
God has a reason for giving us this command. First and foremost, he knows what's best for us. By obeying him, we trust God to look out for our best interests.
Reason #2 - We Won't Miss Out on the Blessing of the Wedding Night
There's something very special about a couple's first time. In this physical act the two become one flesh. Yet it is more than just physical oneness — a spiritual union takes place. God planned for this exclusive experience of discovery and pleasure to happen only within the intimacy of marriage. If we don't wait, we miss out on a very special blessing from God.
1 Corinthians 6:16
Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, "The two become one." Since we want to become spiritually one with the Master, we must not pursue the kind of sex that avoids commitment and intimacy, leaving us more lonely than ever—the kind of sex that can never "become one." (The Message)
Reason #3 - We Will Be Spiritually Healthier
If we live as carnal or fleshly Christians, we will seek to gratify the desires of the flesh and live only to please ourselves. If we live this way, the Bible says we cannot please God. We will be miserable under the weight of our sin. As we continue to feed our fleshly desires, our spirit will grow weak and our relationship with God will be destroyed. Complacency with sin leads to worse sin, and eventually, spiritual death.
Romans 8:8,13
Those controlled by the sinful nature cannot please God. For if you live according to the sinful nature, you will die; but if by the Spirit you put to death the misdeeds of the body, you will live ... (NIV)
Reason #4 - We Will Be Physically Healthier
This one is a no-brainer. If we refrain from sex outside of marriage, we will be protected from the risk of catching sexually transmitted diseases.
1 Corinthians 6:18
Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. (NLT)
Reason #5 - We Will Be Emotionally Healthier
One reason God tells us to honor marriage and keep the marriage bed pure has to do with baggage. We carry baggage into our sexual relationships. Memories from the past, emotional scars and unwanted mental images can defile our thoughts and make the marriage bed less than pure. Certainly God can forgive the past, but that doesn't mean we're free from the baggage that can linger in our minds.
Hebrews 13:4
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. (NIV)
Reason #6 - We Will Show Consideration for Our Partner's Well-Being
If we put our partner's needs above our own and consider their spiritual well-being, we'll be compelled to wait for sex. We, like God, will want what's best for them.
Ephesians 5:2
Live a life filled with love, following the example of Christ. He loved us and offered himself as a sacrifice for us, a pleasing aroma to God. (NLT)
Philippians 2:3
Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves; (NASB)
Reason #7 - Waiting is a Test of True Love
Love is patient. That's about as simple as it gets. We can learn the sincerity of our partner's love by their willingness, or lack thereof, to wait.
1 Corinthians 13:4-5
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking ... (NIV)
Reason #8 - We Will Have No Negative Consequences to Deal With
There are always consequences to sin. Some of those effects can be devastating. An unwanted pregnancy, a decision to have an abortion or place a child for adoption, broken relationships with family and friends — these are just a few of the possible outcomes we face when we choose to have sex outside of marriage. We should be sure to consider the snow ball effect of sin. And what if the relationship does not last? Hebrews 12:1 shows that sin hinders our lives and easily entangles us. We will be much better off if we avoid these negative consequences.
Reason #9 - We Will Keep Our Christian Testimony Intact
We don't set a very good example of godly living when we disobey God. The Bible says in 1 Timothy 4:12 to "be an example to all believers in what you say, in the way you live, in your love, your faith, and your purity." (NIV)
In Matthew 5:13 Jesus compares his followers to "salt" and "light" when we represent him in the world. When we no longer shine the light of Christ, when we lose our Christian testimony, we lose our "saltiness." In other words, we become flavorless and bland. We lose our ability to attract the world to Christ. Luke 14:34-35 puts it strongly, saying that salt without saltiness is worthless, not even fit for the manure pile.
Reason #10 - We Won't Settle For Less Than God's Perfect Will
When we choose to have sex outside of marriage, we settle for less than God's perfect will — for ourselves and for our partner. And if we do this, we don't know what we might end up with. Perhaps we'll end up in a miserable marriage.
So, here's some food for thought: If your partner wants sex before marriage, consider this as a warning sign about their spiritual condition. If you are the one who wants sex before marriage, consider this as a warning sign of your own spiritual condition.
Bent Broken Torn n Tattered But still NEVER Broken
The Key to value and worth is knowing who we are in Jesus... When we know that there is nothing for us to do but stand in awe of the Lord and give him thanks and praise for what he has done for us in Christ...
I have had such an incredible journey in my short 27 years. I walked on this earth trying to find my self worth and value. I knew Jesus him and I had an intimate relationship. He knew me in and out even better then I knew myself. BUT He wasn't enough for me. I wanted more. What we all fail to realize is that... HE HAS EVERYTHING all of this belongs to him and when we accept that we cant do this life without him we will have everything. An over abundance of love support and peace.
Gods will never takes us where his GRACE cant cover us. His mercy has brought me to this point but his GRACE covers me and makes me whole.
Today I'm just giving God his glory this entry is short but I felt the desire to just give it to God today whatever I'm struggling with it's his...
I have had such an incredible journey in my short 27 years. I walked on this earth trying to find my self worth and value. I knew Jesus him and I had an intimate relationship. He knew me in and out even better then I knew myself. BUT He wasn't enough for me. I wanted more. What we all fail to realize is that... HE HAS EVERYTHING all of this belongs to him and when we accept that we cant do this life without him we will have everything. An over abundance of love support and peace.
Gods will never takes us where his GRACE cant cover us. His mercy has brought me to this point but his GRACE covers me and makes me whole.
Today I'm just giving God his glory this entry is short but I felt the desire to just give it to God today whatever I'm struggling with it's his...
Thursday, March 4, 2010
For The First Time Again
I'm jaded from all that I have seen
I'm bitter but dont want to be
I'm believing can you be my unbelief?
Sometimes I think I know too much
But even then it's not enough
Can you take me back so I can move ahead?
Jesus I come.. come to you again
Just like it was the first time
I came to you for new life
I need you now as much as I did then
I need a new beginning
So Jesus I am coming
For the first time again...
For the first time again.. yes AGAIN See this song was about me and so many other people I know. When we have nowhere else to turn to Jesus we go and every single time he welcomes us with open arms, but the things is every time we turn away again. When our troubles are gone when we have that good feeling back and right back down the vicious path we go. Until we fall on our faces again at his feet begging and pleading for him to take the pain away. To take away the brokeness.. How many times do you actually have to do this cycle before you realize LOOK THIS IS WHERE I NEED TO BE... on my face at his feet.. ALWAYS... see God has saved me he had delivered me from self destruction from DEATH... but this time I wont be leaving. BUT lately I have been experiencing attacks from people who seem to be in the same place I use to be. Bitter.. BROKEN.. they keep questioning me saying who do you think you are... you use to do this you use to do that. I dont think I am anyone except a child of God who is yearning to spread his word of forgiveness. I know where I was as a woman and where so many of the woman that come to me are at. The negative words from people dont get me down they drive me to work harder and speak more. I can call them my haters. They would love to see me fail and the thing is if I was they would welcome me with open arms right back into the life of sin and death. I will forever tell people I was on mtv... yes it wasn't the best time of my life. BUT if one girl just one can learn from my story my struggle my pain then that's all that matters... Not the negative words of some person who knows nothing about me but what they see.. See in the end I will answer to only one and that is God. I wont answer to my haters I wont answer to my Pastor I wont answer to my Parents... I will only answer to God so that is how I live my life to please him and him alone.
God is so good... and he loves each and every single one of us. I never thought I'd find someone that would accept me for me and everything that comes with me. Including my PAST... but you know what.. God put a man in my life. A man who knows every secret I have a man that hasn't and wont turn his back on me. Maybe I have tried to push him.. maybe I have found myself in disbelief because no person could ever accept this.. but I was wrong when you put ur faith in God instead of man.. He brings to life things that only you could dream of. I have 2 amazing little girls that are so beautiful that love me and dont judge me. I can only strive to keep them from the pain that I once indured. God promises that when you come to him you will be forgiven and you will be like pure white snow. Because of the blood of Jesus.
Nothing is easy yes you will still pay the consequences of the life you've led but I promise this short time on earth is worth living for God. Because eternity with him is the ultimate reward.
I'm bitter but dont want to be
I'm believing can you be my unbelief?
Sometimes I think I know too much
But even then it's not enough
Can you take me back so I can move ahead?
Jesus I come.. come to you again
Just like it was the first time
I came to you for new life
I need you now as much as I did then
I need a new beginning
So Jesus I am coming
For the first time again...
For the first time again.. yes AGAIN See this song was about me and so many other people I know. When we have nowhere else to turn to Jesus we go and every single time he welcomes us with open arms, but the things is every time we turn away again. When our troubles are gone when we have that good feeling back and right back down the vicious path we go. Until we fall on our faces again at his feet begging and pleading for him to take the pain away. To take away the brokeness.. How many times do you actually have to do this cycle before you realize LOOK THIS IS WHERE I NEED TO BE... on my face at his feet.. ALWAYS... see God has saved me he had delivered me from self destruction from DEATH... but this time I wont be leaving. BUT lately I have been experiencing attacks from people who seem to be in the same place I use to be. Bitter.. BROKEN.. they keep questioning me saying who do you think you are... you use to do this you use to do that. I dont think I am anyone except a child of God who is yearning to spread his word of forgiveness. I know where I was as a woman and where so many of the woman that come to me are at. The negative words from people dont get me down they drive me to work harder and speak more. I can call them my haters. They would love to see me fail and the thing is if I was they would welcome me with open arms right back into the life of sin and death. I will forever tell people I was on mtv... yes it wasn't the best time of my life. BUT if one girl just one can learn from my story my struggle my pain then that's all that matters... Not the negative words of some person who knows nothing about me but what they see.. See in the end I will answer to only one and that is God. I wont answer to my haters I wont answer to my Pastor I wont answer to my Parents... I will only answer to God so that is how I live my life to please him and him alone.
God is so good... and he loves each and every single one of us. I never thought I'd find someone that would accept me for me and everything that comes with me. Including my PAST... but you know what.. God put a man in my life. A man who knows every secret I have a man that hasn't and wont turn his back on me. Maybe I have tried to push him.. maybe I have found myself in disbelief because no person could ever accept this.. but I was wrong when you put ur faith in God instead of man.. He brings to life things that only you could dream of. I have 2 amazing little girls that are so beautiful that love me and dont judge me. I can only strive to keep them from the pain that I once indured. God promises that when you come to him you will be forgiven and you will be like pure white snow. Because of the blood of Jesus.
Nothing is easy yes you will still pay the consequences of the life you've led but I promise this short time on earth is worth living for God. Because eternity with him is the ultimate reward.
Tuesday, March 2, 2010
I Can Only Imagine
I can only imagine what it will be like
When I walk by your side..
I can only imagine what my eyes will see
When your face is before me...
These words are so powerful to me.. before I wrote this I had to sing this song...
Walking by his side.. the side that took the spear while hanging on that cross
dying for me to live.
His scarred hands... yes even in heaven he will carry the scars of the nails that were
driven thru his hands... all this so that I may be saved..
How powerful his love is. How great it feels to know that no matter what happens on this
earth he has a place for me.
God has delivered me from a life of sin. A life that surely was ending in DEATH. The devil had me in his grasp. I can not even imagine where my life would have taken me had I kept living in the flesh. The freedom that I now have. Being released from bondage of sex, partying, and everything else that comes with it.
I know that I have always falled short of Gods grace but daily I strive to bring GLORY to his kingdom and to his name. God is so forgiving... You may not think you are worthy of being forgiven.. but no matter what sin none is greater.. and he promises forgiveness if we just believe.
I've always walked with God. I've always known he was there... looking at me shaking his head at my actions.. knowing he was calling me.. struggling to live in the world running from what he truly had for me. Surrendering my life to the Lord has been the most freeing decision I've ever made..
Thank you Jesus for the ultimate sacrifice... you died for me and I'M LIVING FOR YOU...
Will I stand in your Glory
Or to my knees will I fall
Will I sing Hallelujah
Will I be able to speak at all
I can only imagine...
Amen
When I walk by your side..
I can only imagine what my eyes will see
When your face is before me...
These words are so powerful to me.. before I wrote this I had to sing this song...
Walking by his side.. the side that took the spear while hanging on that cross
dying for me to live.
His scarred hands... yes even in heaven he will carry the scars of the nails that were
driven thru his hands... all this so that I may be saved..
How powerful his love is. How great it feels to know that no matter what happens on this
earth he has a place for me.
God has delivered me from a life of sin. A life that surely was ending in DEATH. The devil had me in his grasp. I can not even imagine where my life would have taken me had I kept living in the flesh. The freedom that I now have. Being released from bondage of sex, partying, and everything else that comes with it.
I know that I have always falled short of Gods grace but daily I strive to bring GLORY to his kingdom and to his name. God is so forgiving... You may not think you are worthy of being forgiven.. but no matter what sin none is greater.. and he promises forgiveness if we just believe.
I've always walked with God. I've always known he was there... looking at me shaking his head at my actions.. knowing he was calling me.. struggling to live in the world running from what he truly had for me. Surrendering my life to the Lord has been the most freeing decision I've ever made..
Thank you Jesus for the ultimate sacrifice... you died for me and I'M LIVING FOR YOU...
Will I stand in your Glory
Or to my knees will I fall
Will I sing Hallelujah
Will I be able to speak at all
I can only imagine...
Amen
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